Dear Jaclyn and Heidi,
My wife and I are six weeks into our open-ended adventure. We have a largely harmonious time despite being together 24/7 for the first time in our lives. Our main source of friction is campfires … I love them, my wife hates them. To me there is no greater pleasure than building a fire after a hard day’s adventuring. It is part of the ritual of life on the road. When the sun goes down, the flames go up providing a source of comforting light and heat. Food tastes better and the wine sweeter whilst staring into that orange and yellow leaping glow. My wife doesn’t get it though – she just sees dirt and effort and detests the smoke. With fire or without, one of us will always be miserable. Help!
Mike
My heart goes out to you. I, like you, love a campfire as it helps to make the evenings a special event. However, they are not for everybody. We receive many letters from people who find the leap from suburbia to sitting around a smoky fire night after night too much. As always in these ‘deadlocks’, compromise is perhaps the key. Maybe you can alternate with one night with fire and the next without. This may help you appreciate the fire more after an absence and you never know your wife may grow to appreciate the hypnotic effects of a campfire as suburbia fades into the past and she acclimatises to the realities of life on the road. Good luck.
Jaclyn
Houston, we have a problem! Your wife hates campfires! Surely if she is camping in Australia for an extended period of time she must partake in one of its greatest pleasures. Okay, they may be a little high maintenance but so are many things about taking the Big Lap (a whingeing partner for one). Are you sure she is really into this trip or does she crave the comforts of home or a hotel room? I hope your travel plans don’t unravel as further fundamental differences emerge, Brian. Don’t give in on this, though. Why shouldn’t you be able to create a little dirt and smoke in the evening … on a camping trip? If she can’t accept this, the whole adventure may be at risk. Time for a serious chat!
Heidi