Dear Jaclyn and Heidi,
I used to love every aspect of the grey nomad lifestyle but, these days, I am more interested in getting a big Scrabble score using the triple word space than I am in taking a tiring bushwalk in a national park. And I would much rather play cards under the shade of the awning than drive off to look at stalactites and stalagmites at yet another limestone cave. It’s not that I am lazy or that I don’t enjoy sightseeing, it is simply that I love playing games and having a laugh with new friends more. It’s got to the point now that I sometimes make up excuses to my husband, Tim, when he wants to go off and do some activity or other. Then, when he heads off, I scour the van park inviting any likely looking fellow games enthusiasts across to our van. Am I a naughty nomad?
Pam
It’s great that you have found something that you enjoy doing so much, Pam. However, I think you haven’t mentioned how Tim feels about being left to head off exploring on his own. From your description, it sounds like he is an accommodating and thoughtful sort of fellow, but I am sure solo cave tours and lonely bushwalks were not what he had in mind when the two of you set off in your van together. Of course, it is important for couples to have their own hobbies as they travel long term but, if your enthusiasm for your hobby stops you from getting out and exploring this great country, it might be time to re-evaluate your priorities. There is a happy medium here, Pam. Talk to Tim, value your time together (and apart) , and make sure that your hobby doesn’t overbalance your experience.
Jaclyn
Are you gambling away your life’s savings on these card games, Pam? If not, then what’s the problem? You’ve found a hobby you love and are good at finding others who share your enthusiasm. Tim is still pursuing his passion for getting out there with hiking boots and binoculars. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that, to be a grey nomad, you have to see ‘X’ or ‘Y’, and take this tour, or stop at this spot. The Big Lap means different things to different people. Don’t spoil what makes you happy with a misplaced sense of guilt. You can still pretend to be interested when Tim tells you about the Crested Grebe he spotted during his day, and he can pretend to be interested when you tell him about the clever Scrabble word you came up with. Vive La Difference!
Heidi
