Dear Jaclyn and Heidi,
My wife Shirley and I hit the open road in February. We couldn’t have wished for anything more. The things we have seen, people we have met – just terrific. It was my dream to become grey nomads and we always intended to travel for around six months but it’s been so amazing that I’m desperate to keep going. The problem is that Shirley, as much as she has enjoyed herself, is now ready to go home and I can’t change her mind. I feel that if go home with her, I’ll end up bitter and frustrated and life will be unbearable. We’ve been married for 35 years and I don’t want to hurt her feelings but how do I suggest that I keep on going and that I’ll see her at home at Christmas?
Frank
Trust me, you’re not the first to face this conundrum, Frank. I think there may room for compromise here. After all, you and Shirley are a partnership and there needs to be some give and take. I’m not sure that travelling on your own for the next five months is the way to go. She would worry about you for start and, while you may not think it now, it won’t be the same without Shirley by your side. I totally understand your dilemma but why don’t you suggest going on another trip next year? That will give her time to spend time at home and recharge her batteries. It’s great fun on the road but it can be tiring. Alternatively, if you are really set on this plan, maybe keep travelling for a month, or two at most, and then wend your way home.
Jaclyn
Now then Frank. Let me get this straight. Your lovely lady has had the good nature to give up her creature comforts and live your dream for six months. Now you want to ditch her and keep travelling while she is faced with paying the bills at home, doing the chores and explaining to your friends and neighbours how you appear to love the open road more than you love her? And all the while you’re having a ball, without a care in the world. Shame on you Frank for even thinking this. I’m all in favour of travelling for as long as you can, but a deal’s a deal! If I was Shirley, I’d get home and change the locks – or better still move home. But then you might like that! It would mean you’d be able to keep travelling forever!
Heidi
