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Is one caravan better than two?

Dear Jaclyn and Heidi,
I am – or was – a solo travel­ler. I have been on the road for three years and, about six months ago, I met a wonderful man. John, like me, is divorced and we got on like a house on fire from that very first shared Happy Hour. We quickly became friends, then travelling companions, and now I suppose it is fair to say we have become a bit more than that. He is kind, thoughtful, and attentive, and it’s a long time since I’ve been this happy. However, John is now suggesting that I sell my Coaster campervan and ‘move into’ his caravan. I know it’s crazy for us both to be endlessly filling our tanks, and paying for two sites at caravan parks, but living together in a van can put a strain on couples who have been married for 50 years … what might it do to us?

It sounds like you have found a good man, Nom. You are one of the lucky ones! The fact that you hit the open road in the first place shows you are a strong, independent woman with a love of adventure and who wants to live life to the full. If you love this man, why wait? Life is too short. Who knows which way life will take us. Perhaps John is the one for you and you will travel happily ever after, and perhaps he will break your heart. You don’t know until you find out, and the only way to find out is to give it a go. It is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all. And, you really don’t have to sell your Coaster, Nom. Why not just put it in storage for a month or two while you see how things work out? Good luck!

Have you ever heard the saying ‘once bitten, twice shy’, Nom. As someone who has been through a divorce, you will know all too well how painful ‘falling out of love’ can be. The fact that you are asking the question ‘is this the right thing to do?’ means it isn’t the right thing to do … yet! You say you have never been happier so why would you risk spoiling that happiness by jumping into a shared rig arrangement be­fore you are 100% ready to do so. If couples who have been married for half a century find it challenging living 24/7 in each other’s pockets, why subject a new – and promising – relationship that sort of pres­sure test? It’s not worth it, even to save a few dollars along the way. Enjoy a cuddle over at his van if you want, but keep the Coaster on stand-by, Nom.


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