Dear Jaclyn and Heidi,
After years of planning, we finally set off on our travels in September. We are having the time of our lives. Well, we were having the time of our lives. Sandra, my wife, has always been a bit of a worrier, but when we hit the open road she became almost carefree. She was loving it and we planned on being away for a year. That was until our daughter told us a storm had damaged our house. It’s only minor, but Sandra immediately said we need to pack up and go home. I’m trying to convince her there is no need as our daughter has it under control. But the seeds of worry have been planted and now Sandra is adamant we’re going home in the next couple of weeks. I’m devastated. What can I do to change her mind?
Bob
The worry of what might happen at home is one of the main reasons some don’t realise their dreams and join the grey nomad community. And I do sympathise. It must be very concerning to hear your home has been damaged, even though your daughter is dealing with the situation. Travelling across our wonderful country with a loved one is a fabulous shared experience, but only if you’re both enjoying it. Even if you do convince Sandra that going home is unnecessary, it won’t stop her worrying. She’ll stop enjoying herself, and that means you won’t enjoy it either, Bob. Why not suggest you both pop home for a couple of weeks, on the understanding you’ll re-start your travels once everything is shipshape? It will put Sandra’s mind at rest and ensure you continue to have the time of your lives when you hit the road again.
Jaclyn
Sometimes there are valid reasons to cut short your travels. This, Bob, is not one of them so I share your frustration. Sandra needs to pull herself together and understand two key things here: the damage is minor and you have a family member “on location”. Many grey nomads have no one looking after their affairs but get on with it. Make no mistake, if you scuttle off home, that’s where you’ll stay. Sandra won’t risk another trip. Your daughter is key to this. Get her to spell out in no uncertain terms that everything is under control. It’s not all about Sandra – she must think about the incredible disappointment you would feel at having your adventurous dreams shattered for no reason. If Sandra is still adamant she wants to call it a day, send her a few postcards as you continue on your way.
Heidi
